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  • Writer's pictureSusan Pattis

The Power of Forgiveness (Part III)

Forgiveness is about making peace with your inner self to avoid further suffering from the mistakes made by somebody else. It is wise to forgive and to move on, even if it is for purely selfish reasons. Forgiveness not only heals your wounds mentally and emotionally but also stops the pain caused by those who hurt you. Forgiveness is not just a one-time action but an essential path toward total peace with yourself and with the world.

Pure forgiveness is not your ego’s decision making yourself superior to others. True healing forgiveness allows oneself to move on without resentment and let the act of evilness pass by without harboring hate. It is understandable for the victim to see himself as innocent while the other party is guilty. Forgiveness with a noble feeling is good initially, but leads to superficial and arrogant intentions.

The honorable and powerful way to forgiveness starts with a complete understanding of how your mind processes its attitude toward yourself and to others. One of my clients always condemns her boyfriend for being unfaithful and irresponsible. But I found the root cause of her doubt towards her boyfriend came from her shameful feelings about her own affair with another man. Our thoughts are often a mirror of our own image and our behavior toward others.

Forgiveness happens easily when we are genuinely aware that absolute freedom arises from releasing anger as a result of acknowledgement of self-projection. Forgiveness occurs with positive thought and intention when letting go, suppressing ego and moving on without external influence. Perfect forgiveness is when you have the greatest compassion and empathy towards yourself and others. The morality and ethics behind true forgiveness represents the firm stance of humans seeking truth in this illusional world. Forgiving someone or something is meditative, dropping into a trance beyond the physical form and perceiving the truth without word or thought. Forgiveness is a loving present to yourself as much as to others because it indicates your enlightened realization of the truth about oneness and wholeness.

True forgiveness means you have no more judgment nor anger in your mind or heart, even though you might still testify against the guilty party if there were a trial. Forgiveness gives greater benefits to yourself than to the other party because you are no longer carrying any of the painful emotions that pulled you down. All humans sin and have flaws and make intentional and unintentional mistakes. Unless we can isolate ourselves entirely from other humans, we will be adversely affected by human imperfections and flaws. Forgiving other humans is an implicit requirement and an essential part of building human relationships. It is worthwhile forgiving others because you are the one who regains your freedom.

Hate and resentment is a double-pointed sword. It points towards others while guarding the sacred garden in your heart. But it isolates yourself from the wonders of our beautiful world and excludes the opportunity of nurturing a great relationship with others. The sharp sword prevents others from entering your heart while also stopping you from enjoying a happy life. Forgiving those who have hurt you before means taking your soul back by putting down your sword and freeing yourself from the past. True self-protection is your compassion and wisdom, not the sword. You can use forgiveness to help you understand the truth of wholeness and the purpose of life.

To Be Continued.


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