I like to use meditation to forgive others and heal myself. In my meditative phase, I created a safe space in my deep conscious mind where I was peaceful and comfortable. Then I invited the people who had wronged me and whom I felt resentful emotions. I discussed my issues and feelings with them and imagined their explaining why they did what they did to upset me; then, I forgave them individually with unconditional love and complete understanding. I thanked them for joining me in the virtual space and said goodbye with compassion and a non-judgmental attitude. I came out of this meditation with surprise that my feelings towards them could have been stronger. I've done it a few times successfully. I recommend you try this meditative forgiveness process to release the bitterness or resentment in your heart.
Do not expect that the past could be any different after forgiveness. Maybe you think forgiving means accepting what "is happening" to you, but it is taking that "it has happened" to you - not admitting that it was okay for it to happen. Forgiving is giving up unrealistic hope, not holding on or wishing it could be any other way than it was. Do not hold grudges for anything or any situation. Do not hold ourselves prisoners. The human mind is reluctant to let go of the past. But you can only move forward when you let go, forgive yourself, forgive the situation, and realize that the problem is over.
Most people get so caught up in blaming that they continue to blame and sabotage their lives long after the person is gone. People like to hold on to the blame because it is easier than moving on. People who take responsibility for their life and want to move on and put the past behind them are much more likely to gain freedom, success, and happiness. Forgiveness doesn't mean that there aren't horrible people who do wrong. Forget about them and create your best life by taking back your power. Blame them for what they have done, but don't blame them for what you haven't done. Blame them for their actions, but bless them for making you stronger. It is much better to be the excellent you. You can blame the world for bringing them into your life, but then be grateful for all the lessons it taught you and the strength it gave you.
The best revenge is not taking any revenge. It is simply moving on in your life. Focus on the good. Drop the negative emotions and focus on the next positive attitude. Move on and create your best life without cheating your future with your history, Life’s circumstances won’t be perfect for anyone, but if you get into a suitable space, you can understand that everything happens for a reason and be at peace. Not everything is good but see the good in everything.
Forgiveness is a cancellation of debt from wrongdoing. You owe me nothing. We have a clean slate. There is nothing wrong between us. Of course, perhaps some amends or restitution has already been made, and forgiveness declared after. But forgiveness is its deal. Forgiveness is absolute, and the best action is forgiveness. You can't bring it up later as a grievance, that's for sure! Otherwise, your word's worth nothing. Please honor your forgiveness. Have your forgiveness be worth something. Forgiveness is pretty clean. You could do anything from there, or you don't have to do anything from there.