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  • Susan Pattis

Why Is Self-Compassion Important to You? (Part IV)



Self-compassion helps you to shift your mindset from challenges or issues to a learning experience and personal growth. People who practice self-compassion regularly through silent meditation or awareness exercises have a positive attitude toward addressing problems, facing challenges, and accepting weaknesses. A popular way of practicing self-compassion is writing an encouraging letter to yourself using compassionate tones and kind words that answer your inner questions. You can even act as your own guiding mentor listening to your inner voice about challenges or anguish you are suffering. Give yourself suggestions that will help you end internal struggles mentally, physically, and spiritually.


Cultivating self-compassion needs time, patience, and commitment. Are you willing to spend ten silent minutes each day having that self-dialogue? Are you strong enough mentally to admit self-imperfection? Can you look in the mirror every day to practice smiling sincerely and compassionately to yourself? Do you have the sense of humor to laugh at your past mistakes and to forgive yourself? Would you write down the true feelings in your mind? Can you stop self-criticism and focus on the present moment? Are you mindful enough to accept who you are no matter what? Can you hug yourself before going to bed? Please be patient with yourself while developing self-compassion and loving-kindness.


Today’s world is becoming more complicated, with more uncertainties and unknown challenges. Everyone is responsible for understanding and accepting common humanity. Influential people must encourage the public to stop chasing perfection for their life purpose because nobody can reach it. Perfection mentality eats your happiness and takes away loving-kindness to oneself. Some successful people are unhappy. Happy and successful individuals know how to connect and inspire others, and at the same time, exercise self-compassion and loving-kindness towards themselves.


Self-compassion is not a state of mind but rather is a valuable tool that can heal your inner wounds and uplift your spirit. Self-compassion is a skill everyone can learn to help take care of themselves by understanding the benefits of simply being kind. Self-compassion will eventually lead to self-recognition, self-identity, self-awareness, and self-love. Mindfulness plays a critical role in activating self-compassion. Mindfulness requires your attention on the present moment without resenting the past or worrying about the future. Mindfulness makes you feel empowered or encouraged to give kindness towards yourself without feeling selfish or self-centered.


Self-compassion relates to your mental health and overall well-being. One of my clients owns a large wealth management company. She works over ten hours daily in the office, besides regular international travel all over Asia. She is seldom happy despite the business success because she wants her company to become one of Asia's top ten such companies. She became anxious and depressed recently due to the Covid-19 lockdown and the lack of new clients in the Asian market. She reached out to me for help because she could not let anyone in her circle know about her mental issues due to personal pride and a face-saving mindset. She is much better now since She started her self-compassion practice. It is essential to remind yourself that everyone makes mistakes, and it is not the end of the world. Treating yourself with self-compassion and loving-kindness is your #1 task as a human being.


To Be Continued.


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